The Value Of Perspective
Perspective. Let’s talk about the value of the ability to see multiple angles when analyzing a situation we are in. This, when mastered, is a super power! This can be used to solve a conflict, to gain knowledge or simply as an exercise of curiosity.
When in any situation, taking the time to observe your partners, opponents, loved ones, etc, have in their hand, you will not only be able to have a greater chance to achieve your goals, you can also be more compassionate about other’s people’s reasons behind their actions.
Most of the time we are only able to see our angle on things. More so when we are involved in a conflict that involve one or many other people, we tend to narrow our view and fall into full on self-protection mode. This is a natural reaction and it also is part of this Flight, Freeze or Fight response we all have. The down side, here again, is that when in this state our thought is cloudy and we make choices that make things worse. So it is best to remain rational and become aware of the reasons behind everyone’s actions, which will give you the upper hand and will dramatically change your choice of action.
Conflicts like this are everywhere, big or small, in personal relationships, at work environment, in competitive activities, etc.
One competitive activity that not only perfectly reflects this environment but also uses the skill of perspective as one of the most valuable skills used to win is the game of Texas Holdem Poker. Familiar? Hope so. If not, don’t worry it will still make sense.
In these situations, just as in a hand of Poker, there is a shared reality, in the case of poker, this reality is the cards on the table that affect all players equally. Then, each player has his own set of truths (experiences, traumas, skills, goals, personalities, current feelings) these truths are the cards each player holds in their hand. No other player can see them. The individual set of cards they hold, although reacting to the same reality (Flop, turn and river) will determine the actions they will be taking on each round of bets. In life, wouldn’t it be powerful to be able to know what their hands are?
With this knowledge, you would succeed every single time by making choices empowered by being able to see their perspective.
Follow me this far?
So I am sure you are beginning to see why perspective is a super power. When in any situation, taking the time to observe your partners, opponents, loved ones, etc, have in their hand, you will not only be able to have a greater chance to achieve your goals, you can also be more compassionate about other’s people’s reasons behind their actions.
Often we are hurt by someone that is in pain and unable to find clarity, so they become reactive and we happen to be in their way. If we know their pain, chances are you won’t hit back, maybe instead you take a kind action to help them.
So how do we find out what their cards are? Well just like in poker, knowing exactly what these truths are is not possible. But through unbiased observation, research, even direct inquiry when accessible, you will be able to make a fact based intelligent guess that will surely be closer to be correct than if you had not taken the time to observe and research.
The power of observation is no joke. It is what successful people are made of. Also, spies and all competitive sports members spend time and effort understanding their opponents.
In relationships, it is our responsibility to make an effort and see our loved one’s perspective of things. Understand it from their angle, independently of ours. Understand what codes they come with, what traits, what pains, etc. This is the only way to truly make the choices that will bring you closer to your goals of being well and happy together.
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